Feelings Allowed — A Resource for Therapy and Life
Not a replacement for therapy, but a companion to it.
Feelings Allowed is increasingly being used by therapists alongside their work with clients — not as a replacement for therapy, but as a companion to the therapeutic process. The book helps readers develop greater emotional literacy: recognising, naming and understanding feelings, while noticing patterns in relationships and everyday life. Therapists are also finding that reading between sessions can help clients identify experiences, emotions and recurring issues they may want to bring back into therapy for deeper exploration.
At its heart, Feelings Allowed invites us to become more curious about what we feel rather than judging or avoiding it. As the book emphasises, noticing and naming feelings can become a foundation for connection, healing and change.
Chapter preview · Being the Hinge
What if you are the point where an old family pattern begins to change?
Being the Hinge explores the challenge of recognising patterns that have travelled through families and generations — and finding the spontaneity, creativity and courage to take a different direction. Being a hinge does not mean blaming previous generations. It can involve understanding what our parents and others were able — or unable — to change, while accepting responsibility for what we choose to do next.
A question to take into therapy — or simply into life: where might I be the hinge for change in my own story?